You know what I’m talking about.
You’ve been there, right?
change your life, or maybe even the lives of others.
maybe for the first time ever.
It was like you had stepped into a new reality…
A NEW STORY.
One where you seemed to be able to bend the rules of the matrix.
And it wasn’t just any old stinky story –
it was THE perfect one to make you doubt everything.
Maybe it was…
began acting more like a villain.
What do you do when the “story” hits the fan?
and pretend that you don’t have any of it on your face?
or try to make a pretty painting on the wall with it?
written by someone who has helped raised many babies,
but I think you get the point:
and being aware of it and being able to laugh at it is half the battle. 🙂
Next time, try this and let me know how it works for you…
Get Curious about that Smelly Story: “Whose story is this?”
Yes, everyone’s “story” has its own unique odor, doesn’t it?
If it’s someone else’s, then try this:
[Remember: If they are close to you, chances are that your BIG CHANGES are mirroring their need to create change for themselves. It’s not your fault that their ego is feeling a little threatened, of course, but remembering this at least makes it a little easier to not take it personally and get to some compassion quickly. No one loves other people pointing out their “story,” and it’s always nice to not draw too much attention or scrunch your nose up too hard.]
If that “story” is yours, then it’s time to enlist something stronger than a wipey to clean it up.
– Compassionate Curiosity: “Where did this story start? Why/How is it being challenged by my new endeavor and action? What stinky lie has been collecting and constipating me for so long that it finally made a mess in my life?”
– Unconditional Safety: “What would make me feel safe enough to face this sh*t head on and re-script and re-write this story? Do I need allies, mentors, therapists, support groups? Do I need more time in nature, in meditation, or in a yoga class?”
– Clear, Story-Owning Action: “What is the first step [new script? new behavior?] toward making myself safe and cleaning this mess up? Is it getting quiet and listening to my intuition? Is it calling a friend? Is it hiring a mentor?”
Try these out the next time the story hits the fan and let me know how it goes.
As always, I’d love to hear from you.